One of my mentor coaches wrote an enlightening book on this topic. (It’s very expensive. Only .99 on Amazon Kindle and could change your life. “Coach the Person Not the Problem” by Chad Hall.)
Chad is the President of Coach Approach Ministries, and say’s, “don’t let the word problem trip you up. If you’d rather think of this as the client’s challenge, topic, or issue, that’s fine.”
I have joined CAM, and after 5 plus years of study, preparation, and practice I recently reached the first milestone of being certified by the International Coaching Federation as an Associate Certified Coach (ACC).
As the focus shifts from the problem to the person, a transformation can occur.
Consider taking the action step to focus on the person, not the problem as an offering to the Lord during Advent. Anytime a problem manifests itself, make the attempt at focusing on the person with the same grace of the virgin born one.
Another author on this topic was the Apostle Paul who wrote: “Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.” Eph. 4:4 NLT
I find it difficult to be tenderhearted and forgiving, when I focus on the problematic actions of others. I also find it difficult to remain focused on the person if I focus on a very positive action or aspect of a person.
The easy path forward is to stay the same. A more rewarding and difficult path is to focus on the person, and not the problem or a very positive issue, “just as God through Christ has ...”.
Consider this: Hiring me as a coach for the first part of 2017 to help you with a positive trajectory. Visit my website and discern if I would be a good fit for you. https://ccraigburns.com/
Also consider joining the community of Vienna Assembly of God. Visit our website to see if we would be a good fit for you. http://viennaag.com/